So today I want to share something I think is important for writers to hear. I had the opportunity to "go to bat" for my writing. Which I did. I ended up with a very harsh critique.
I seriously questioned throwing in the towel. I think we've all had a harsh critique. It could be jealousy; or just an uncaring, unthinking person. Or any other hundreds of possibilities.
Then some kind soul said one of my stories blew their mind. I took those words to heart more than the critique. I decided I need to keep going.
The critique stated that my grammar is horrific. I use too many adverbs. Plus the one thing that bothered me the most. I shouldn't share personal stuff. I'll cover the rest in a moment.
We are all humans. And our greatest strength that keeps us connected, and brings us together, is our shared journey. I believe that.
In sharing personal stuff I reach people and connect with them. Writing aside, it's valuable in and of itself. As for the writing it paints me as human. People then know I go through some of the same moments they do. This bond is what we all share.
So for this professional writer to tell me not to connect bothered me. The idea that it was okay to be mean while offering a critique bothered me as well.
So here and now, I solemnly pledge not to be mean in offering my help, advice or any critique I may give. I hope those of you that write will promise this as well. I believe we have a better chance of success, walking forward together, rather than bashing each other.
I believe any critique can have some merit. I have taken the bits that have some truth in them and I am striving to improve. As for the meanness I am doing my best to let go of that.
So if you get a harsh critique, keep in mind that it doesn't mean that everything they say is true, or that you should let that stop you from trying. Take the useful parts and grow from them. Most important remember the feeling when you are critiquing someone else. Be helpful, be truthful, but don't be mean.